Massimo Recalcati Boeken

The kiss is the image that, perhaps more than any other, encompasses the beauty and poetry of love. Every love is required to maintain the kiss, to make it last. When they kiss, lovers carve out a space for themselves, find their peace from war. When they kiss the noise of the world is silenced, its laws broken, time is stolen from its normal continuity. They join together in their distinct, embraced tongues. The kiss joins the tongue that declares love with the body of the lover. And the extinction of the kiss – or more importantly, of the desire to kiss – is the beginning of the end of love. In this short book, Massimo Recalcati – one of Italy’s leading intellectuals and bestselling authors – offers seven brief lessons on the mystery and miracle of love, from the serendipity of the first encounter to its end or its continuation over time, as mysterious and miraculous as the first encounter itself.

Fatherhood today is in crisis. Fathers have gone missing, or have become their children’s playmates, and the symbolic authority of the father has lost its power. What remains of the father today in the wake of this decline, and what should the relation between children and parents now be? In addressing these questions, Massimo Recalcati draws inspiration from the story of Telemachus in Homer’s Odyssey. The Telemachus complex is the reverse of the Oedipus complex. Recalcati argues that children are possessed not just with a desire to annihilate their father, as their key rival in the contest to win the mother’s love, but also with a longing for a father-figure, as someone who brings meaning, structure and order to their lives and who imbues them with a sense of the future. This fresh and insightful account of the changing relations between parents and children in the era of the decline of the father will be of great interest to a wide general readership.

First published in 2017 in Italian under the title Il Secreto [sic] del Figlio.

An examination of Cain's murderous act through the lens of psychoanalysis: an urgent, stirring reflection on violence and morality.

In this book the bestselling author and psychoanalyst Massimo Recalcati offers a fundamental re-examination of what ‘being a mother’ means today, in a world where new social and sexual freedoms mean that motherhood is no longer the sole destiny of women. Questioning the belief that a mother’s love is natural and unconditional, he paints a more complex and troubling picture of the mother–child relationship, observing that mothers may even resent their children as a result of unresolved conflicts between different dimensions of love. The mother’s hands not only nurture but can also potentially harm. Recalcati argues that it is precisely in these competing demands that motherhood fulfils its function: only if the mother is ‘not-all-mother’ can a child experience the absence that enables it to access the symbolic and cultural world. Recalcati cuts through conventional wisdom to offer a fresh perspective on the changing nature of motherhood today. An international bestseller, this book will appeal to a wide general readership, as well as to students and scholars of gender studies, psychoanalysis and related disciplines.

"An original reflection on betrayal and forgiveness in modern relationships"--

As the Gospels tell us, after the Last Supper Jesus retreats to a small field just outside the city of Jerusalem: Gethsemane, the olive grove. His prayers are interrupted when Judas arrives with a group of armed men, and kisses him. The kiss, given to point Jesus out to the guards, has become a powerful symbol of the wrenching experience of betrayal, and abandonment. Betrayed by his disciples, even by Peter, the most faithful of them all, Jesus is forsaken. His sin, to have drawn God closer to man. In The Night in Gethsemane, Massimo Recalcati, one of Italy's highest regarded psychoanalysts, traces the relationship between biblical text and psychoanalytical theory, revealing human life in all its fragility and its agony.

Modern social and political life is characterized not only by a passion for freedom and a desire for human contact, but also by the urge to shut down, to refuse freedom and the responsibility that goes with it, to barter it away in return for our security: this is the temptation of the wall, a temptation with which every modern society has to come to terms. Drawing on his experience as a psychoanalyst, Recalcati shows that the temptation of the wall is rooted in a deep psychological inclination: human beings have always drawn up borders and rejected the risks associated with being open to the outside world. But when these borders are turned into walls, they can only result in an impoverishment of the value of exchange and the loss of the dynamic plurality of a life shared with others.

In questo libro Massimo Recalcati si rivela commentatore lucido e originale della nostra vita collettiva degli ultimi vent’anni: le trasformazioni della famiglia, il disagio della giovinezza, il declino irreversibile dell’autorità paterna, il ricorso diffuso alla violenza, lo scientismo come nuova forma di religione, il culto ipermoderno del corpo in salute e del benessere, la medicalizzazione della vita, lo schermo narcisistico dei social, l’isolamento e la spinta melanconica alla morte in un mondo dominato dal consumo e dalla celebrazione dell’immagine, la crisi economica e la precarietà del lavoro, il trauma della pandemia e la sua incidenza sulle nostre esistenze, l’orrore della guerra e della repressione patriarcale degli ayatollah contro le donne sono solo alcuni dei temi affrontati, insieme a quelli più direttamente politici che riguardano i ritratti psicoanalitici dei maggiori protagonisti della politica nazionale e internazionale dell’ultimo ventennio come Berlusconi, Grillo, Renzi, Salvini, Mattarella, Draghi, Trump e Putin. In queste pagine Recalcati offre al lettore un appassionato ritratto antropologico del nostro Paese e dei problemi del mondo contemporaneo.