Mary C. Lamia Boeken

Rescuing others, losing yourself. Are you a white knight? Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or helpless people? Do you feel like your love can heal your partner? Are you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for constant reassurance in relationships? Do you make excuses for your partner? Do you try to "save" people from themselves? In legends and fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner's behavior or life-a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. If this dynamic sounds familiar to you, you may be a white knight; hoping to receive admiration, validation, or love from your partners, but managing only to cheat yourself out of emotionally healthy relationships. It's time to come to your own rescue, and this book can help. With well-written analysis, engaging insight, and salient case studies, The White Knight Syndrome is a much-needed and well-executed guide to understanding and resolving the white knight syndrome in yourself.

The loss of a loved one can be overwhelming. How do we endure grief? Can we simply forget, or 'get over it?' This book explains the science behind bereavement, from emotion to the persistence of memory, and shows readers how to understand and adapt to death as a part of life.

Chock-full of cool psychology and info on emotions, real-life stories from kids, interesting facts, and feeling quizzes, Understanding Myself will help you notice just what all your emotions and feelings are telling you about yourself, your friends, and your family.

Mary Lamia explores the emotional lives of people who are successful in their endeavors-both procrastinators and non-procrastinators alike-to illustrate how human motivation works and how to make the most of it. She illustrates how so- called negative emotions like distress, fear, and shame can drive the achievement of goals.

Understanding shame as a signal that things we enjoy are being impeded.